Valentine’s Day for Singles

Let’s get real. If you’re takin’ on Valentine’s Day, you don’t even consider the option of attending a Valentine’s Day party. You want some alone time with your special someone. and no one wants to throw a party for couples. Talk about awkward! Fear not! There are alternatives for the single men and ladies out there who want to spend the lonely evening with others in the same boat. I’m talking Anti-Valentine’s Day parties or a singles get-together.  We all celebrated Valentine’s Day one way or another when we were kids in grade school so why not continue to enjoy the fun of an imaginary holiday.

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The catch with a Valentine’s Day party of any kind is that it is shockingly easy to get carried away with the matchmaking, forced love and cheesy heart designs. Take these too far and you’re in for an awkward night. My advice for throwing any kind of Valentine’s Day get-together is to keep it simple. Most of your guests probably aren’t too thrilled they’re not alone with a special someone anyway.

Valentine’s Day Party Themes

 -Anti-Valentine’s Day

– Singles Mixer

-Girls or Guys Night

Anti-Valentine’s Day

The Anti-Valentine’s Day party is a classic with some twists and turns to avoid. Your guests should all be single, so everyone can join in on their hatred for the “holiday” and have a good time despite what day it is. The problem with this theme is that it can lead to some pretty bad attitudes.

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You don’t want a party of your best girlfriends crying in one big group or your guy friends sulking around as if it’s the worst day ever. The atmosphere here should be fun, not mean. There should be no conversations about ex-boyfriends or girlfriends or even talk about exactly why you’re Anti-Valentine’s Day. It should just be a chance to get together with friends. The only way to know how a party like this would turn out is to know whom you’re inviting. You know that overly emotional friend who just can’t seem to shut up about her boyfriend who broke up with her three months ago? Yeah, don’t invite her. If you don’t know if you’re friends can handle the snarky atmosphere of an Anti-Valentine’s Day party, there are other options you can try.

Singles Mixer

A simple singles party is another option for mixing with the opposite sex but without the pressure of being set up on a blind date. Take charge of the event and use social media such as Facebook to reach out to any friends you have whose relationship status reads: Single. On the event page or invitation let your single friends know to bring a single friend or two of their own. This way it’s just a big group of people who don’t have dates and want to have a good time.

In my opinion, playing games like speed dating is a bad idea. Everyone at this party is probably interested in meeting someone but forcing it to happen will make everyone uncomfortable. By all means make it a game night though, board games that are interactive and maybe tell you a little about someone else and can make you laugh are the best.  A lot of games like this require small teams or even just partners and this can help make the mingling happen.  Some sure-fire wins for gaming include Cranium, Taboo or The Game of Things.

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Ladies night in—Guys night out

The final—and sometimes the best—option for someone wanting to host a get-together without any chance of awkwardness is the single-sex party. Ladies, get together a bunch of your favorite romantic comedies and love movies. I’m saying break out your copy of The Notebook and P.S. I Love You, a couple of boxes of tissues and get your gal pals over for a night of letting it all out. It seems sad, but when you’re all in it together, it reminds you how strong your friendship is and how much you love each other.

P.S. I Love You

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Men, do the exact opposite of the ladies. Grab some friends, some beer and pizza and play video games, watch sports or whatever it is you like to do together on any other day. Think of it as adding a day to your weekend. Get out and play golf if you’re lower key or find a bar with great Tuesday specials if you’re more the social type. Whatever you decide to do, you and your friends won’t even remember it’s a holiday. That’s the perk of being a single guy on Valentine’s Day—you’re allowed to forget.

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 Making it fun—even when it hurts

 So you’re sad. You’re planning a get-together like this and not a romantic evening out. Don’t be. These party ideas are great ways to meet new people or reconnect with the people who really deserve your love on this made-up holiday, so have fun with it!

Cocktails are great and can get fun and flirty. Who doesn’t enjoy a pink drink every once in a while? Make sure to whip up some fun treats, too. Valentine’s Day is a great time to show off your baking talents and an even better time to indulge just a little. Run wild with recipes and colors. While red hearts everywhere is tacky, some red velvet cream cheese brownies are the perfect touch.

Heart Shaped Food

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Explore Pinterest  to get some great cocktail and snack recipes to take whatever you do on Valentine’s Day to the next level.


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